In my motivational talks, I share my five
secrets for conquering adversity with the audience. One of those secrets is to be Infinitely Flexible. Life is
constantly throwing surprises at us and the more resilient and flexible we are, the better equipped we are to handle these
surprises, many of which can be quite major such as a job loss, a major illness, or even a natural disaster (such as
the recent Tsunami). I go on, quite confidently, to say that winners are never surprised by lifes surprises and are
able to switch course quite easily.
I pride myself on heeding my own advice. Yes, I tell my audiences,
I am very flexible. I give wonderful examples of my great flexibility. Why I have landed on my feet after many
Unfortunately, my family does not think of me in the same glorious manner as my audiences and,
when I walk through the door feeling rather smug after a successful presentation, the pedestal collapses, rapidly knocking
me to the ground. BOOM!
My son is home from college for the holidays. Keaton, why are your clothes all over
the living room? This is not a dorm. Please pick them up. My husband arrives after a long extended stay on the road.
Hal, will you PLEASE move your suitcase from in front of the bedroom door. I keep tripping over it and I cant
stand all the stuff piled on the bathroom counter. Dana, the dogs are barking like crazy and the noise is really
getting on my nerves. Come on everyone, lets get this place cleaned up and get shopping. The relatives
are arriving for a week, we have no groceries, and the house is a mess. The response I get? Oh Mom, just cool
it. They wont care. I grit my teeth and respond with, I hope you guys realize how flexible I am being. You
know I am the expert in flexibility. What do I get in return? A big, Yeah RIGHT!
up, mess up, demands up, dishes piled up at the sink, patience running thin. Be flexible, Lynne. Be flexible,
keeps running through my head as I quietly scream inside. Would your rather have family and friends around or calm and
quiet? A little voice in side my head says, Calm and quiet!!!!
Feeling the time crunch of getting
everything done before Christmas Eve arrives, I blurt out, Anyone in favor of skipping the tree and all the decorations
this year? A resounding NO is the reply. Again the little voice in my head, Be flexible, Lynne.
So what if we cant get the tree until we take the pick-up truck to the garbage dump to throw away all the trash that
someone tossed into it during the summer? So what if it is raining like cats and dogs while we stand at the dump scooping
out the truck? So what if we have to wade through mud to look at the skimpy 10 trees left in the lot? So what if the oven
is broken and I cant cook the turkey until the repairman from Sears arrives? So what if the dogs are barking every time
someone comes in and out of the living room? So what if the cat has diarrhea on the white rug in front of the fireplace in
the living room? Remember, this is FAMILY TIME. The mantra Be Flexible keeps running through my head. Be
flexible. Be flexible. I finally force myself to sit down and take a deep breath. If my audiences could see me now,
Id be penniless! What happened to Infinite Flexibility?
I realize that often I am more resilient and more flexible
with the BIG stuff in my life than the smaller things that disrupt my daily routine. I think there is a good chance I handled
cancer better than the holidays. When life hits us hard, we gather up our courage and stand tall with the conscious
realization that we MUST be flexible and resilient. We remind ourselves constantly that we can handle whatever it is life
has thrown at us. Yet when our daily routine is disrupted, when someone cuts us off on the freeway, or we have a bad day at
work, we often forget our own wisdom. I am reminded of a quotation I often use in my voice mail message, It isnt
the mountain ahead that wears us out, it is the grain of sand we have in our shoe. We leave that grain of sand in our
shoe hoping it will shift to one side and then, all too often, we take out our frustration on those closest to us family,
friends, and co-workers.
While I always INTEND to be flexible, my behavior often does not match my intentions. I honestly
forget to think about it when the washing machine breaks, or the dishes are piled high next to the sink. However, I always
think about it when something HUGE happens.
I have no doubt that we all feel flexible especially
when it comes to major events or crises. But what about the day-to-day stuff that derails your day the dog
messes on the carpet, the flat tire on the freeway, or the long wait at the doctors office that causes you to be late
for another appointment? Are you flexible and resilient then? Today, as these little things cross your path,
I urge you to take a deep breath, get that grain of sand out of your shoe, and remember to be Infinitely Flexible.
a HAPPY and resiliently FLEXIBLE 2005!
If you want
to know more about resiliency, I encourage you to visit the website of Dr. Al Siebert at
. While you are there, take the resiliency quiz.
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day-to-day struggles, they have lost touch. It will inspire your soul, tickle your funny bone, and stimulate your mind. To
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